Self-Care Beyond the Self: The Power of Connecting with Community

Self-care is often framed as a solo practice, bubble baths, journaling, therapy, or taking quiet moments for yourself. While those are all important, I’ve learned that some of the most restorative and transformative forms of self-care come from something bigger: connection with community. Over the past few months, I’ve been reflecting on what it means to truly nurture myself. I realized that I feel lighter, stronger, and more grounded not just when I take time alone, but when I actively engage with the people around me, with friends, neighbors, colleagues, or even strangers who share similar passions or struggles. There’s something about the energy, support, and shared humanity in community that replenishes your emotional and mental reserves in ways solo self-care cannot.

Why community matters for self-care

Research shows that humans are inherently social beings. Social connection is linked to lower stress, reduced risk of depression, and even better physical health. Feeling seen, heard, and supported reminds us that we are not carrying our burdens alone.

It also allows for growth:

1. Shared Vulnerability: Opening up to others about your struggles creates space for empathy, advice, and perspective that you cannot find in isolation.

2. Collective Motivation: Being around people who are pursuing goals, personal, professional, or creative, can inspire and energize you to keep moving forward.

3. Purpose Beyond Self: Helping or supporting others in your community builds meaning and reminds you that your presence has impact.

Ways to connect with your community as self-care

• Join or create a support circle: Whether it’s a book club, therapy group, or social meet-up, find spaces where people share experiences openly.

• Volunteer your time or skills: Giving back can be deeply fulfilling, helping you feel connected while making a positive impact.

• Check in regularly: Simple gestures like texting a friend, attending a neighborhood event, or reaching out to a mentor, build consistent ties.

• Engage in shared hobbies: Group workouts, art classes, or online communities allow you to bond over shared interests while nurturing yourself.

I’ve personally noticed that my mood, creativity, and sense of purpose improve when I combine solo self-care with community care. Alone time is important but connection reminds me that self-care is not just about tending to my own needs, it’s about participating in the human experience fully.

So today, I challenge you: reach out to someone, attend a local event, or simply listen and share with a friend. Let your self-care extend outward. You might be surprised at how much it nurtures your soul.

Love, live, light

Erica