Wow! I am still processing all the magic that happened yesterday. I attended TWO
tour stops for Elaine Welteroth's new book More Than Enough. The amount of #girlpower and #blackgirlmagic that I witnessed was unbelievable! I couldn't believe it and I was there! The first event took place at The Jimmy Carter Presidential Library and was moderated by none other than Mara Brock Akil creator of show Girlfriends and Being Mary Jane as well as many othersl! Whew! Being in the same space with these two phenomenal women was powerful. There were many highlights from their conversation. The connected in a way that was so intimate it was almost as if the audience got a peek into a normal gab session between the two of them. What resonated most for me was when Elaine highlighted how important mental health and self-care have been for her throughout her journey. Specifically, when she was burning out and experiencing physical symptoms of anxiety and sought therapy to help maintain balance as she continued to ascend in her career. She also shared that a therapist assisted her with having tough conversations with her family related to what she would be sharing about them in her book. I was really shocked when Mara shared that during the time she was working on her show Girlfriends, she had to fight with the show runners in order to allow Tracee Ellis Ross, the character "Joan", to wear her natural hair on the show. That tidbit blew my mind because “Joan” is one of the reasons I felt courageous enough to begin my natural hair journey. She wore hers boldly in every environment including work. "Joan" was an attorney and it was important for me to see hair that is called "unprofessional" be worn in a professional space. As I walked on stage for a meet and greet with Elaine, I started to feel nervous. I allowed myself to drop into my body and feel everything that I was feeling. I felt gratitude, pride, and a strong sense of alignment. I was exactly where I needed to be.
The next event I attended , Cocktails and Conversation, was at The Gathering Spot and was hosted by the dynamic Dr. Key Hallmon of The Village Market. This conversation was open, honest, and vulnerable. Beyonce's Homecoming album played as the soundtrack. Key eloquently guided Elaine in sharing authentically with the audience about remaining in toxic relationships, following a boy to college, and knowing when to get off the ride when it is no longer going where you want it go. The Village was in full effect at The Gathering Spot and I was able to catch up with some of my favorite therapist friends.
The overarching message I received from yesterday was “what is for you, is for you.” Sometimes you have to be quiet and listen to and also have the courage and maturity to take leaps of faith even when you are afraid. It was powerful to hear the stories that Elaine shared, the ups, downs, and in between. She maintained a strong sense of gratitude every step of the way and remained open to the messages that guided her next steps. Her book More Than Enough is more than a memoir, it’s a tool for anyone who questions their choices or their faith or needs a reminded that YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH. We have everything we need inside of us.
I was honored and overwhelmed to be in the room with so many of my heroes. I felt poured into after yesterday and ready to take on the world. “When the world tells you to shrink, expand.” – Elaine Welteroth
Love, live, life